Hope for Truly Hopeless Women
“All the stories I know from Afghanistan seem to be sad stories,” said a a relief worker who’s lived there for almost a decade. In our recent conversation she shared how she has had to deal with co-workers being kidnapped and murdered. Not to mention the desperate situations many locals deal with. Death and fear are constant companions to those living in Kabul.
Research published this summer, stated that Afghanistan is the most dangerous country for women. Women face a one in 11 chance of dying in child birth. Over two thirds of the women are illiterate. And most women, 70-80%, face forced marriages. On top of this there is the regular physical, emotional and verbal abuse women endure by their husbands, mother-in-laws and other relatives. And to top this there is extreme poverty.
There is no reason for hope. A former relief worker has seen so much suffering among the women in Afghanistan, she is now struggling with serious depression herself. Another relief worker living in Afghanistan said, that even the smallest thing can give hope to an Afghan. When things are that bad, even a bit of good goes a long way.
A growing number of women living in such circumstances are suicidal. In fact self-immolation has become a national epidemic. Most often it is young women who set themselves on fire. Most survive having to live with terrible scars. To combat this problem the government has begun a campaign to teach safety in the kitchen to avoid genuine accidents. They also show the terrible injuries burnt women have to now suffer with and looks at domestic violence issues.
While Afghan women struggle to survive Western women complain about this or that minor detail in gaining equal rights with men. For some women competing with men has become an obsession. Nothing is ever enough. The life we lead in the West as women is so free compared to millions of women who live in truly unequal circumstances. They are not even equal in their right to exist as human beings with the rest of the world, compared to both women and men. Maybe we should do something about that first, before we complain about the 5% difference in his and hers paycheck.