The story made us different characters than we would have been if we had skipped the story and showed up at the ending an easier way.
Donald Miller
To all my single people out there:
I couldn’t agree more with these posts by Don Miller : what women and men really need.
He says women don’t want an insecure guy or a weak guy. “Intuitively, they know they have eggs inside them that, eventually, are going to become little children, and they are looking for a mate who can provide for them and their eggs.” (Which made me laugh out loud, but true.) He says on the importance of having a life: “My friend John Eldredge says you should be on an adventure, and you should invite them into that adventure.” Which also, so true. Girls want to go somewhere with a guy.
Sometimes good Christian girls think they need to appear to be weak and vulnerable to be attractive. I think Miller quite rightly points out that weakness only attracts people who will hurt you. What is attractive on the other hand is confidence. “It’s important to note that a strong, confident woman is what a guy needs, but it’s not always what a guy wants.” Which again is spot on. Ironically all of us often want things/people that are not good for us. Thankfully you become wiser the older you get…
To all my choosy women out there, it’s good to be choosy and to know what your worth. And what you want.
So, what I came away with was that if you (guys and girls) don’t have a vision for your life, get one. Then you’ll stand a chance finding a good relationship also.
What if your life was a story and you the protagonist? Just like in any good story you would have something you wanted and were willing to sacrifice to get it. Maybe it would be a girl (or a guy), maybe a career, maybe world peace, but you would have a purpose for your existence. Obstacles would come block your way, but you would overcome them as any good hero does.
Donald Miller challenges us to think about our lives as a story in his latest book A Million Miles in a Thousand Years.
Thinking about yourself as a protagonist of a story gives you purpose and drive in the mundane times. It’s a reminder that you are living for something more than the groceries, the money making, napping, driving and hanging around.
If you think about your favorite story, what is it that inspires you?
Faith & All Things 